This week, not going to lie, I was struggling with a topic to post about, until today while on a walk with my neighbor and our boys, had it donned on me that this topic would be perfect for this week. My neighbor had their bundle of joy about a month before I popped out my very own crotch fruit a few months back and she revealed to me that she had not had sex since he was born... This amazed me in many ways, because my husband and I have never had this problem, and in all honesty, our sex life hasn't changed much. Today, I am going to delve pretty far into our personal life and give you some tips on what to do after baby comes.
First off the majority of women aren't allowed to have sex after labor for at LEAST 6 weeks, but for the lucky few (like me) who hadn't tore and had no damage other than some swelling, then sex can come a whole lot sooner. I know some of you are thinking about the eternal river of blood that is enevitable after birth, but to be honest, if there's a will there's a way, and if you're horny, sex while on your period isn't the end of the world and they did create showers and washing machines for a reason. When you also factor in the never ending night of feedings and no sleep, you might be too tired. Honestly, even when you're tired sex can be mind blowing.
You need to make your husband feel wanted, it's hard, I'm aware, to make him feel like he is still attractive to you after squeezing that watermelon out of your cooter that he himself put in there, but he has needs just like you do and even a simple hand job will do the trick.
My husband and I are still in love like we were before we were married and the word 'no' barely exists in our relationship when it comes to being intimate with each other. But I still keep wondering why people say sex dies after children.... because we obviously never got that memo. Start slow and work your way back to sex. They call it making love for a reason and it's a connection that can't be replaced when with the right person.
My biggest tip is to use condoms. There is nothing worse than finding out at your 8 week check up that you are pregnant with another monster. And to make time for each other, a little effort goes a long way when it comes to sex.
First off the majority of women aren't allowed to have sex after labor for at LEAST 6 weeks, but for the lucky few (like me) who hadn't tore and had no damage other than some swelling, then sex can come a whole lot sooner. I know some of you are thinking about the eternal river of blood that is enevitable after birth, but to be honest, if there's a will there's a way, and if you're horny, sex while on your period isn't the end of the world and they did create showers and washing machines for a reason. When you also factor in the never ending night of feedings and no sleep, you might be too tired. Honestly, even when you're tired sex can be mind blowing.
You need to make your husband feel wanted, it's hard, I'm aware, to make him feel like he is still attractive to you after squeezing that watermelon out of your cooter that he himself put in there, but he has needs just like you do and even a simple hand job will do the trick.
My husband and I are still in love like we were before we were married and the word 'no' barely exists in our relationship when it comes to being intimate with each other. But I still keep wondering why people say sex dies after children.... because we obviously never got that memo. Start slow and work your way back to sex. They call it making love for a reason and it's a connection that can't be replaced when with the right person.
My biggest tip is to use condoms. There is nothing worse than finding out at your 8 week check up that you are pregnant with another monster. And to make time for each other, a little effort goes a long way when it comes to sex.
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